Many women find themselves in the position of dealing with the depression of their boyfriends. This is often a real surprise to women because theyíre usually the ones that are susceptible to depression. Women of child bearing age usually have all sorts of hormonal issues that happen to them. Men not only accept that this happens, but they get used to it. However, men also become depressed and when it strikes your boyfriend, youíll need to help him deal with it while also taking care of yourself.
The first thing youíll need to do is try to get him to talk to you. If thereís an obvious reason for his depression, it may help to talk through the cause with you. You might be able to even help him get to the bottom of whatís causing him to feel depressed, which can lead to a recovery.
However, if heís not interested in talking to you, donít push the issue. Instead, it will be up to you to try to find someone that he WILL talk to. Donít feel upset or hurt that heís shut you out. There will always be times when heíll need more than you in his life.
Lots of times, helping someone else will have you absorbing lots of negativity, and that includes handling your boyfriendís depression. You must not forget to take care of yourself as well. Listen, talk and whatever else he may need, but donít let yourself be sucked into the abyss along with him. Go out with your friends and have some fun whether he goes with you or not. Conduct your life as normally as possible and stay upbeat even though your boyfriend may still be as low as youíve ever seen him.
There are a few danger signs that will tell you when your boyfriendís depression has crossed from unhappiness to reason for alarm. These include:
Not eating enough
Sleeping too much
Lack of interest in hygiene or bathing
Staying isolated from everyone
Talking about suicide
If your boyfriend is showing any of these symptoms, itís time for you to contact a doctor. On the chance that you see all of these symptoms, particularly talking about suicide, you need to get immediate professional help. If this means calling an ambulance, thatís what you need to do. You may want to try contacting any family members that are aware of the situation and wonít mind physically hauling him to the hospital. While he may be upset with you for taking action at the moment, once heís started recovering, heíll understand why you did what you did.
Itís difficult to deal with the depression of another person, but itís particularly hard when itís someone you love. Most of the time, people can recover from their bouts of depression with the right type of help. However, you should also know that there are a significant number of people that donít pull out of their despair for whatever reason.
If that turns out to be your boyfriend, it may be that youíll need to move on from this relationship in order to save yourself. It may sound harsh and uncaring, but when someone refuses to be helped, you canít allow your life to end and be dragged down with him.
Dating And The Failing Economy
Dating used to be something that all couples looked forward to years ago. The dating ritual usually consisted of going out to eat and to a movie. In those times, the guy always paid for the date. If you look back far enough, youíll even learn about drive in movie theaters when admission covered an entire carload of people. So double dating was a big deal. The snack bar served cheap popcorn and other easy food such as hotdogs and French fries. It was easy to have a $10 to $15 date back then.
Now, that the number of drive in movie theaters have diminished greatly throughout the years, itís not quite as easy to have a decent cheap date. Indoor movie theaters now charge such outrageous prices to get in and even worse prices to get simple snacks and a soda once inside. What used to be a reasonably priced evening out is now easily $50 and up.
It may seem to be an almost impossible task these days for ordinary people to actually go out on a fun day. Wealthy people have no issues but those of the more ordinary working class can find it difficult to afford the typical dating scenario. Thatís when creativity and imagination is required.
To begin with, women of today understand all about the economy and usually expect to be footing their half of the bill on a date. So if money is stopping you from asking out that hot woman that youíve been dreaming of for so long, you might just want to go ahead take the plunge. Granted, the first date should be one that you can afford to pay for completely because it IS a first date. That doesnít mean itís impossible, though.
Save up as much money as you can to put aside for this first date. You can also use your imagination and create a different sort of date. Find out what she enjoys and build a date around that. Try doing something different. For example, if she enjoys riding bikes, plan an afternoon of bike riding in a nice location. You can even pack a picnic to enjoy in a special spot. Actually, picnics can be great ideas for many locations. The beach at night with a campfire can be a very romantic setting for a night time picnic. Just put your brain to work and youíll come up with something.
Once the first date is past, it can become easier to plan more affordable dates because she may feel safer in having you over to her place or in going to yours. Each of you can cook dinner for each other and watch a rented DVD or play games. Basically, there are many things that can be done at home that are fun and affordable.
When you have formed a dating relationship with someone, it will most likely become quite common for her to offer to pay for her half of a date. In fact, SHE may even treat YOU on occasion. This is something that happens frequently when the lady does the asking.