Are Dating Guides Useful?

Dating can be HARD. No one is denying that fact. Actually, everyone seems to be so aware of just how difficult dating can be that everywhere you look there are dating guides of some sort. These things sell like hot cakes, too. The problem is that the majority of these guides are not worth the space they take up online to advertise them. If you think about it honestly, can there REALLY be that many dating gurus and experts around that are taking the time to write books?

Many people do purchase these online ebooks. They also order the physical books that promise to help get that man or that woman that you want. Most of the people that author these books should be sued for false advertising because the only thing they are an expert in is how to make passive income. The books, themselves, are very often a huge disappointment to the people that buy them.

So, are these dating guides really useful? The answer to this question is yes and no. For people that always seem to have bad luck with picking the wrong people to try to date, or those that are simply too shy to deal with the dating arena, these guides can be helpful. There can be some useful advice in these books by the REAL experts on the subject of dating in this new age. The problem is that many of the so-called love gurus are not actually experts at all, as readers will notice almost from the first page of the book.

Many dating guides instruct men to behave in such a way around women that they are more likely to be slapped than dated. Unless men are in a certain part of town and around a particular type of women, they are not going to be successful by using the tips in ebooks written by men that have bedded a significant number of women around the world. Of course, you may just WANT a series of one night stands. If so, by all means, take the advice these Lotharis are handing out.

On the other hand, there are just as many of these devious books for women as for men. Women are not going to get a lot from them unless they are completely new to the dating game. However, is a 16 year old girl REALLY going to buy a dating guide that caters to women that are illegal? If so, it is only going to confuse her more than ever.

If you feel that you need a bit of help with dating, you probably have friends that will be more than happy to offer advice. Many times, that is the best route to take. However, if you are really serious about the advice you need, do your research before ordering just any dating guide online that looks useful. Dig into the authors background and find out what their qualifications are for handing out dating advice. Also, keep in mind that helpful advice does not always have to come from someone with ìDr.î in front of their name. Lots of times, someone with real life experience can be even more helpful because they are real and have lived everything they are telling you. The choice is yours as to what you feel is going to help you the most.

Are You Sabotaging Your Own Love Life?

So you want to be in a relationship, yet nothing you do seems to turn out that way. When this keeps happening and there is no visible reason for it, you may want to consider that you are ruining things all by yourself. There are various ways that this can be done without you even seeing it.

For one thing, you always pick the wrong guy. It may be that you have Bad Boy Syndrome, which keeps you from ever choosing the right man for you. Do the guys you date all seem to treat you like something they have scrapped from the bottom of their shoe, yet you still stay? It may be that you give all the power in a relationship to every guy you get involved with, which means he dictates how the relationship will go. Maybe you zero in on guys that are not emotionally available or they just won’t commit. While these guys may be exciting, unpredictable and phenomenal in bed, they are not going to stay with you, and you actually know that from the onset.

Another way that you are putting obstacles in your path to true love is by staying in bad relationships too long. These are the ones where you KNOW you need to leave because you are not getting what you deserve from it. The sad thing is that you come up with all the excuses in the world as to why you are staying in the relationship. You tell yourself that it will get better or that he will change. Love doesn’t justify being unhappy. Yes, love is very important, but you need other things to make a relationship successful. Things like respect, compatibility, honor and communication are just a few. When there is real love in a relationship, all of the rest will be there as well.

One of the biggest ways to sabotage your relationships is when you base your decisions from a place of fear. Rather than doing something because it is what you want, you do it because you feel you MUST. you are afraid that if you do what your intuition is telling you to do that you won’t have the relationship and life you truly want. You understand that by confronting things that upset you or make you unhappy, then you may have to make some hard decisions. So you clam up instead of speaking up. The important questions are avoided because you are not sure you want to know the truth. that is why you bury your head in the sand rather than acknowledging all of the warning signs around you.

The most hindering aspect of your fear is that you are actually the one that is afraid to commit to someone. Granted, commitment can be a rather scary thing because, after all, you are pledging yourself to one man for the rest of your life. That is enough to scare anyone. However, the thing to remember is that when you find the man that offers you everything you want in a relationship, you will be more open to putting away the fear and opening yourself to commitment.